A “free day” in the life of a trans woman…🎈


⚀Up at 5AM…Drink a Red Bull…shower, makeup, walk the dog
🔴Drive 30 miles to see my therapist; pick up  syringes and estrogen at the pharmacy.
⚁Have blood drawn to test my E and T   levels.
⚂Run two miles…ugh🏃🏼‍♀️
⚃Do my estrogen injection 💉
⚄Dilate for 30 minutes
⚅Drive 27 miles to Trans voice training at the State University
🍽Dinner at 8PM
🍆Dilate for 30 minutes
🎵🎶Practice voice exercises for 45 minutes
🛏Sleepy time

…and you thought it was about eye shadow and lipstick👄💄

Emotional Transition…🥀


One of the changes I’ve noticed since my Gender Confirmation Surgery is with my emotional state. Its something we never seem to talk about when we discuss what happens to transsexual and transgender people after lengthy Hormone Replacement and surgery.

I know with me, I became a chatterbox…I literally cant shut up. My emotional state has dramatically changed as well.

Yesterday, I was watching a funny show on the tube and I started laughing so hard that I had tears running down my face…a true mascara nightmare. The weird thing is that at some point while I was laughing, I began to cry. I mean really sob and those tears of laughter transitioned into a “face in my hands” crying jag with my knees curled up to my chest.
Why? Good question. I suspect it was a combination of my hormone levels and the emotional overload of being 5 months post surgery but it was an impressive experience.

I’ve learned to “roll with the punches” as far as my emotions go. I think people in transition really have to do that or risk becoming basket cases.

I know in my case, my transition has tested my emotional, intellectual and spiritual stability more than any endeavor I’ve attempted in my entire life. After 20+ years as a street cop and a stint on a nuclear submarine that’s saying a lot.

What I’m saying is that “the journey” has more twists and turns than anything you may have experienced in your past.
I consider myself a motivated, strong and tough woman and yet my transition took all of my strength and fortitude to achieve.

Just keep that in mind through your own life’s journey and remember to duck and weave as life throws its unexpected punches at you.
Toni Grace🦋

Yay! Its Monday!


Monday morning…Personally, I look forward to Mondays. Its the day where I renew my efforts, check my accomplishments and gauge where I am in my life.

So stop your bitching…get it in gear…and lets burn the world down! 🌍🔥💣
Toni Grace👯🏼‍♀️

How’s your pyramid?


If you are in transition, you probably have experienced a feeling of frustration and a high degree of stress at times. You know what I mean… You may wake up feeling uneasy or you feel that you just aren’t a whole person…something is missing.

What’s missing is the top of the pyramid…its called self actualization and its s critical aspect of achieving happiness. Its also a basic tenant of human psychology.

In 1943, Maslow called the bottom four levels of the pyramid ‘deficiency needs’ because a person does not feel anything if they are met, but becomes anxious if they are not. Thus, physiological needs such as eating, drinking, and sleeping are deficiency needs, as are safety needs, social needs such as friendship and sexual intimacy, and ego needs such as self-esteem and recognition.

In contrast, Maslow called the fifth level of the pyramid a ‘growth need’ because it enables a person to ‘self-actualize’ or reach her fullest potential as a human being. Once a person has met her deficiency needs, she can turn her attention to self-actualization; however, only a small minority of people are able to self-actualize because self-actualization requires uncommon qualities such as honesty, independence, awareness, objectivity, creativity, and originality.

My point is that a good question we people in transition should be asking ourselves is “Have I hit the top of the pyramid?”


If the answer is no, then why is that the case? Am I happy the way I am? How can I make it better?

Food for thought beyond the tripe you usually see posted regarding trans people. Take it to the next level!
Toni Grace👱🏻‍♀️🕊