The other day I went to my Trans group therapy for the first time since my surgery.
So it was like 9 weeks since I actually saw any of the people there, all of whom identify as transgender women and men.
One of the questions the girls asked was, “So now that you’ve had your surgery, what are you going to get out of group therapy?”
I have to admit I was really surprised at the question, because to me the answer seemed obvious.
I have YEARS of living in a male dominated world in a male role to come to terms with…and surgery doesn’t just magically correct all of that.
I’ve been living as myself and presenting female for about a year and a half full time…I’m still an adolescent where certain things are concerned…albeit a very savvy adolescent.
The point I’m trying to make is that there is no “magic” procedure to make a trans person whole overnight. It takes a HUGE amount of patience, not only with yourself but with friends, family and just about everyone else until you are 100% comfortable in your own skin. It’s a process and its one that’s not for the faint of heart.
It takes balls…even though mine are physically gone…to get through every day.
My transition will be complete the day I die. Until then, it’s fight, strive and live for every gain in wisdom, growth and understanding.
Toni Grace 🕊