Don’t let your disgust and sorrow over the recent conservative thrust against women go to waste.
The blatant hatred towards the Trans community and All women in the U.S. is unprecedented in our country. Led by a misogynist President Trump and a homophobic Vice President Pence we are under attack as women and doubly as Trans women.
Its one thing to bitch and moan about how we are being attacked on every front and its quite another to do something about it.
With Congressional, and many gubernatorial elections just over two weeks away, this is your last chance to actually make a difference in taking back political control of our country.
If we lose these elections, the hate based White House, a biased Supreme Court and a Conservative Congress will whittle your rights down to nothing.

Toni Grace🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸

#lgbtq #antifacist #vote #trans-rights #trans #equality

Post GCS surgery…🦋

So at the risk of going into sharing “too much information” and what some may consider a personal matter…I want to share some interesting facts about GCS (Gender Confirmation Surgery) that you may or may not know.

After my surgery, I went through a period of time where I was worried about how I would function sexually and how my vagina would look and feel to me. Its major surgery so there are no guarantees.

When I first got out of surgery I was in a tremendous amount of pain. I had a catheter in me and I was packed with gauze. Morphine, and later Hydrocodone, took care of the pain, but there was still the worry about “How is this going to work out!”

The packing and catheter were removed after a few days and the real “work” began. Once I was able to, I had to dilate my vagina (A trans woman’s vagina is called a neo vagina…meaning a new vagina).
That entails using medical grade devices, similar to smooth dildos, three times a day to prevent my body from healing and closing shut. There are 4 sizes of dilators, progressing in width as you go.
If you don’t dilate, you end up with a pee hole which can’t function in any sexual way…so its critical to do it if you actually want a functional vagina.

So now that I’m 7 months post surgery, I only have to dilate once a day. I will have to keep doing that for the rest of my life or risk losing depth and width….which I won’t allow to happen!

I discovered a few other things after I healed sufficiently:

1. I can orgasm. (I can’t even begin to describe how absolutely wonderful it is to climax as a woman but if you are in transition and considering surgery, believe me when I tell you its everything you can imagine it would be!)

2. Physically, my vagina is indistinguishable from that of a CIS woman. I am super critical of my body so THAT was really important to me! The first time my GP examined me after surgery she said, “Oh my God Toni, that’s wonderful!”…which made me do a happy dance…lol!

3. I discovered that they don’t remove the erectile tissue. Which translates into an erect clitoris whenever I’m aroused. The same thing happens to CIS women when they are sexually aroused so its as normal as can be. Its also amazing when it happens when I’m out and about and its spontaneous. Suffice it to say I find myself crossing my legs and smiling a lot!

4. I have no testosterone….I mean zero! So that’s expected since the testicles are removed during surgery. The problem is that CIS women produce a small amount of testosterone naturally…and post surgical trans women don’t. Testosterone is necessary, albeit in a small amount, to maintain energy and a healthy balance so I use a prescription T cream daily to supplement that. My hormone regiment is an IM estradiol injection every two weeks and the cream daily…for the rest of my life.

There’s so much more to the surgery and the follow up that I could literally write a book on my personal experience but I hope that at least some of this information helps other trans women understand another woman’s experience with surgery.

Huge hugs and always look forward. The past is already in your rearview mirror.
Toni Grace👱🏻‍♀️

#gender #transgender #surgery

Full Circle 🏳️‍🌈

12 hours at my desk and still going strong👱🏻‍♀️💪💋

So, I’m convinced that I have the best job in the world… Working in a medical center that has the most diverse patient base imaginable including over 650 transgender people, and a large segment of both gay and straight folks …I meet the most wonderful people and I’m in a position to give back to a community that has shown me empathy and understanding when I needed it the most.

My life has come full circle and I’ve learned something that didn’t occur to me even a year ago. Our journey in transition can’t be limited exclusively to ourselves. Fulfillment, for me at least, has to include sharing and offering a hand to our sisters and brothers who still struggle with a world that isn’t totally accepting of who we are.

Can I help the next person in line? 👱🏻‍♀️
Toni Grace🕊




The pronoun is she…

Its like a badge of honor. Its “only” a word but it took years to earn. To express. To hone and to fine tune.

She wasn’t a gift at birth taken for granted and often neglected as is the case for millions of genetic women.

She was hard fought for. She had to fight a world not quite ready for her and a body not equipped to carry her through her journey.

She faced doubt, fear, hatred and the prospect of risking an entire lifetime of accomplishment and success…but built upon the lie of an imposter.

She is Trans.

She is sometimes viewed as an “imitation”, a “lesser than” and a “not quite”. But her belief in herself always overcame the weight of these obstacles.

She learned strength by not having the option to be weak.
Her head is held high, her eyes focused and her heart beats with a joy only known to those who’ve walked a similar path.

Follow your heart dear ones. Be grateful instead of sad because you are one of a rare and special ones. There is a reason and a purpose to your hard road.
You aren’t a “mistake”. You are a miracle!

Toni Grace 🕊