So I had GCS (Gender Confirmation Surgery) back in Feb 2018. During a follow up visit to my surgeon, I was waiting in an examination room and I spotted this #5 dialator!
Its a joke item … if you can actually dilate your vagina with something this huge god bless because it would split me in two…lol!
Yes, my surgeon has a sense of humor! 🤤
Toni Grace

Pride Month 🏳️‍🌈

So, Pride Month is coming to a close and the marches, parties and venues will be petering out as life returns to “normal” and many gay and trans people return to their respective closets.

While I adore the visibility, we in the LGBTQ community have gotten over the past 30 days, I feel that what happens next is what really counts.

See, the thing is that Pride month isn’t like Christmas…you don’t just put away all the decorations and end the celebrations until next year when you can dust them off and start the party again.

The importance of celebrating who you are continues throughout the year…whether you are marching with thousands of your sisters and brothers or simply walking out of your home all by your lonesome.

Whether you realize it or not, the transgender community is at a point where the world is beginning to take notice of us. The lesbian and gay community had the Stonewall experience in 1969 and we are having ours now in 2019.

We are making history as I write this! The explosion is taking place partially because we have a president who is demonstrating blatant hatred towards trans people but also because we have unprecedented public support and a better understanding of what we are about.

Keep the momentum going dear ones in the best way possible…which is by living a full and meaningful life as yourself .

In other words, get out there and strut your stuff!
Toni Grace 🏳🌈💋

When serious crimes against transgender people are treated as minor violations by the judicial system…

http://Man who bashed transgender woman at Newtown pub given community service

🥀The Australian judicial system is no friend to the LGBTQ Community.
In a serious assault against a transgender woman that left her badly injured, a sentence of *”COMMUNITY SERVICE”* was imposed on her attacker.

*🥀Here’s the difference between Australia and the U.S…* The pricks that did this in Newtown, AU, received community service which is a total outrage. In Connecticut, where I reside, the sentencing is a bit more appropriate:



A person commits the first degree crime of intimidation based on bigotry or bias if he maliciously and with intent to intimidate or harass another person because of his actual or perceived race, religion, ethnicity, disability, sexual orientation, or gender identity or expression causes serious physical injury to that person or a third person. This is a class C felony, punishable by one to 10 years in prison, a fine of up to $10,000, or both (CGS § 53a-181j).

🥀“Gender identity or expression” is defined as a person’s gender-related identity, appearance, or behavior, whether or not it is different from what is traditionally associated with the person’s assigned sex at birth.

🥀So in addition to being “upset” at the assailants’ actions, you should be outraged by the failure of the judicial system in this case. And when you read about trans “bashing”, a term that implies an act of mischief rather than a violent physical assault, pay attention because as a member of the LGBTQ community, you are being de-humanized.
Toni Grace 🕊

New in My World…🌎

Ok, lets see what’s new here in my little world…

So I’m still working as a Patient Rep here in beautiful New England …and its been a blast. Our facility is growing at a phenomenal rate and check THIS out…We now have 840 transgender patients between our three locations!!!
I’ve met some of the most wonderful people here and there isn’t a single day that goes by where I don’t interact with a trans woman or man.
We have people come in who are just beginning to transition and starting hrt (EXCITING STUFF!🎈)…trans women prepping for GCS surgery and those like myself, who have been on “the journey” for years.
I can’t begin to say what a wonderful experience its been for me to get to talk to these folks! I’ve gotten to meet trans teens who come in with their parents all right through the spectrum to older trans people who are in retirement. They come from every background under the sun…but there is one thing I’ve noticed that these exquisite people have in common…they all have HOPE.
Hope is contagious. Hope in one person spurs hope in everyone they meet. Its a breath of life and an inspiration to see.

My facility is both innovative and remarkably cutting edge. We sponsor:
Trans Yoga
Trans Group Therapy
Trans Swims
Trans Acupuncture
Trans Game Night ….the list is huge.
I recently began a program at the University of Rhode Island for trans women involving voice feminization. (Its my second run though the program…I’m a stubborn case…lol! )

If you are in transition, my advice to you is that you *”get involved”.* While transition is the most personal and individualized life experience I can think of, its best not done in isolation. In fact, in order to be a healthy, functioning and whole person, I firmly believe that we need to experience our growth in general society.
Easy? No.
Necessary? Yes.
Have a great weekend…stay strong and be you!
Toni Grace 🌻

#transgender #lgbtq #transition

Trump: On the Vietnam War

Trump on the Vietnam War:
“I was never a fan of that war, I’ll be honest with you. I thought it was a terrible war. I thought it was very far away,” Trump said. “At that time, nobody had ever heard of the country.”

It seems to me that the men and women who chose to do the honorable thing during the Vietnam War were probably not “fans” of war either. They were aware that it was a “terrible war” (Like all wars…) and yes, it was far away (Not many recent wars have been fought in the New York metro area).

If you need to understand the cowardice, privilege and arrogance of Donald Trump, you have only to listen to his own words.
Toni Grace 🇺🇸🥀

Memorial Day 🇺🇸


Memorial Day: Parades, barbeques, parties, sales, and all the trimmings. Great. Enjoy yourself, but give a moment to cut past the superfluous rituals and think of the thousands who have died serving this country to protect your freedoms.

It doesn’t mean you celebrate war. It means you are humble enough to be thankful for people who did what they thought was the “right thing” despite the personal cost to themselves.

As a veteran, who happens to be a transgender woman, I’m well aware of the meaning of the concept of sacrifice. My sacrifice was not on par with my sisters and brothers who gave their lives when called, but nevertheless  I “get it”.

Pride, loyalty and admiration are earned…not by waving a flag or screaming opinions louder than your detractors. They are earned though quiet, unselfish actions that put momentum behind your beliefs.

Be a hero in your own heart though your courage and steadfastness in your daily life.
Toni Grace 🇺🇸🕊🏳️‍🌈