*Four percent of Americans had been on a date with a transgender person in the last year. But just over a quarter of surveyed respondents said they would not tell anyone if they had sex with a transgender person….and it gets worse. If you are trans then you know how it feels to be treated like “an imitation”, “second best” or a creature who should be hidden and whispered about. If you aren’t trans then this article is also for you…
if you want to know how hard it is to be openly transgender in society today. READ ON….
#transgender #shame #blending
So I was having blood drawn at my job today and an “inquisitive” coworker came by and asked, “Hey Toni what’s the blood test for?” I looked at her and in my most sincere and serious voice responded, “Its a pregnancy test hun.”
She did a double take and just kinda looked at me.
The phlebotomists, whom I know, lost it. One laughed so hard she had tears running down her face.
Oh gawd…I’m bad!
#transgender #humor #lighten_up
So, I know how everyone feels about going to work on Monday.
If you let your self talk wander into the negative zone it can really suck.
No matter what you do for a living, I’m sure most of you deal with people on one level or another and whether you realize it or not, you impact these people and you influence their moods and how they feel. It doesn’t matter if you are a doctor, a police officer or something less glamorous such as a medical receptionist (Which is my current profession)
The author Charles Dickens said it best in a very simple statement that is relative to life in general. Its my mantra when I interact with people every day…
“NO ONE IS USELESS IN THIS WORLD WHO LIGHTENS THE BURDEN OF ANOTHER”
I speak with transgender people every day. The medical center I work at has 700+ trans clients and a huge number of other members of the wider LGBTQ community. So my face to face interactions are ongoing and numerous…We ALL share the same concerns with regard to the hatred and avarice being generated by the Trump administration since 2016.While talking about how unfair and unjust the political system has been to trans people is cathartic and it feels good to “bitch” about it, it doesn’t really help to change a fucking thing.The attached letter is a response I received from Congressman Joe Courtney, after I voiced my concerns to him.If you are involved in the LGBTQ community (Which hopefully is why you are here!) then you might consider voicing your own “loud and proud” opinion to your own representative.Share your responses on your social media of choice…there’s power in numbers! 🏳️🌈🇺🇸💪
So it was a year and a couple of days since I had my bottom surgery and my transition continues….
During February 2019, I went up to the Boston Medical Center to have some of the “rough edges” of my facial features worked on.
My surgeon, Dr. Jeffrey Spiegel, turns out to be both a skilled surgeon and an skillful artist when it comes to bringing out fem features in women who are either CIS or trans. (Imagine replacing a sculptors chisel with a scalpel and working with skin and bone instead of stone)
So, without all the minutia, suffice it to say…
It was expensive.
…and it helped me tremendously with overcoming my dysphoria and in building my self esteem so it was worth every penny and every moment of discomfort.
Ill be posting more on my own experience in the near future but I wanted to explain my recent absence…I’m still alive and kicking! ⚘🏳️🌈🕊
#toni_grace #ffs #transgender #transition